The Benefits of Therapy for Men: Building Resiliency and Fostering Positive Change

Men's Therapy


In recent years, there has been growing recognition of the mental health challenges faced by men and the significant benefits of therapy in addressing these issues. Historically, societal expectations have discouraged men from seeking help for emotional and psychological problems. However, an increasing body of evidence highlights the positive changes that therapy can bring to men’s lives, particularly in fostering resiliency and promoting overall well-being. This article explores the benefits of therapy for men, drawing on insights from experts such as Dr. Ronald F. Levant and Terry Real.

Building Resiliency through Therapy

One of the primary benefits of therapy for men is the development of resiliency. Resiliency refers to the ability to bounce back from adversity and maintain psychological well-being in the face of challenges. According to Dr. Rogelio Serrano, a specialist in working with men, “Men face daily challenges to combat toxic masculinity and develop new definitions of manhood. In treatment, I have seen men discover that masculinity can be a source of strength and resiliency. Men often see that true masculine strength comes from expanding the ways they see themselves and acknowledging the challenges they have overcome.”

Enhancing Relationship Satisfaction

Therapy can also significantly improve relationship satisfaction for men. Dr. Ronald F. Levant, a prominent figure in the field of men’s psychology, emphasizes that traditional masculine norms often discourage men from expressing vulnerability and emotional intimacy, leading to strained relationships. Through therapy, men can develop better communication skills, learn to express their emotions constructively, and foster deeper connections with their partners. These changes contribute to healthier, more fulfilling relationships, benefiting both men and their loved ones.

Improving Work Relations

In addition to enhancing personal relationships, therapy can positively impact men’s professional lives. Workplace stress and the pressure to conform to traditional masculine roles can take a toll on men’s mental health. Therapy offers a platform for men to address these issues, develop stress management techniques, and improve their interpersonal skills. As a result, men who participate in therapy often report better relationships with colleagues, increased job satisfaction, and enhanced productivity. The ability to manage stress and communicate effectively in the workplace is a crucial aspect of professional success. Rogelio Serrano, PsyD, of Orange County Health Psychologists, adds, “Men are taught to link their masculine identity to their work and professional success. When these areas begin to fail, it can lead to stress and insecurity. In treatment, men learn that relationship skills are fundamental to building better work/life balance. As one man put it, ‘I never realized that my childhood had so much to do with how I felt every day. Accepting what happened back then has made me a better friend and colleague.'”

Health Benefits of Therapy

The health benefits of therapy for men extend beyond mental well-being. Research indicates that men who engage in therapy experience improvements in physical health as well. Chronic stress and unresolved emotional issues can lead to a range of physical health problems, including cardiovascular disease, weakened immune function, and chronic pain. By addressing these issues through therapy, men can reduce their risk of developing such conditions. Moreover, therapy encourages men to adopt healthier lifestyles, including regular exercise, balanced nutrition, and adequate sleep, further promoting overall health.

Addressing the Problem of Masculinity

The problems associated with traditional masculinity are well-documented, including emotional suppression, reluctance to seek help, and the perpetuation of unhealthy behaviors. However, the solution lies in promoting a more flexible and inclusive understanding of masculinity. Terry Real, a renowned therapist and author, argues that redefining masculinity to include emotional expressiveness, vulnerability, and mutual respect can lead to significant positive change. His work on depression and relationships underscores the importance of men embracing these qualities for their mental health and overall well-being.

Historically, different generations of men have viewed psychotherapy with varying degrees of acceptance. Baby Boomers and those from earlier generations often perceived therapy as a last resort, only necessary for severe mental health issues. This perception was rooted in the stigma that equated seeking mental health support with weakness or “craziness.” In contrast, Generation X men began to shift this perspective. Jason Blakemore, LMFT of Orange County Health Psychologists, notes, “Generation X men are the first ones that are sort of trying to buy into therapy and having the stigma decreased. Prior to Gen X, I think men only saw therapists if they were hearing voices or felt devils were talking to them; it was only for ‘crazy’ people, they said.”

Today, Millennials and Generation Z men are increasingly embracing therapy as a normal part of life. Blakemore observes, “Nowadays, I get Millennial and Gen Z men coming in for therapy because they feel it’s just something they are supposed to do, like going to the dentist or the doctor. I’m so happy to see more men being okay with mental health and the stigma having decreased so much over the years. I think this is going to help people be more emotionally intelligent and understanding fathers in the future, and I’m hopeful to see how this trickles down over our society.”

This generational shift highlights the growing recognition of the importance of mental health and the benefits of emotional expressiveness. By continuing to redefine masculinity, society can foster healthier relationships and improve the overall well-being of men across all ages.


In conclusion, the benefits of therapy for men are manifold, encompassing emotional resiliency, improved relationship satisfaction, better work relations, and enhanced physical health. Experts like Rogelio Serrano, PsyD, and authors such as Dr. Ronald F. Levant and Terry Real highlight the transformative potential of therapy in addressing the unique challenges faced by men. By seeking therapy, men can foster positive change in their lives, challenging traditional norms of masculinity and embracing a healthier, more fulfilling approach to life. The path to well-being is not one that men need to walk alone; therapy offers a valuable support system on this journey.


Levant, R. F. (2008). The new psychology of men. Basic Books.

Real, T. (1998). I don’t want to talk about it: Overcoming the secret legacy of male depression. Scribner.

Rojelio SerranoAbout Rogelio Serrano, PsyD

With over two decades of clinical experience in a wide variety of professional settings, Dr. Serrano specializes in treating trauma, depression, grief, anger management, and life transitions, in addition to his expertise in men’s issues and domestic violence prevention. As a bicultural and bilingual practitioner, Dr. Serrano offers services in both English and Spanish based on client preference 

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Jason Blakemore, LMFTAbout Jason Blakemore, LMFT

With over 15 years of professional experience, Jason uses a unique approach of “explore, process, heal, challenge, reframe” to help clients develop personal awareness and redefine their history to move out of deep pain, depression, or anxiety, and create a healthier, happier, peaceful life.

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